Have you ever felt anger or a sense of loss for having spent years taking care of others instead of honoring your core self–your true essence–by becoming all that you can be? Do you regret spending money unwisely in past? Feel sad about relationships that held promise of gold but never panned out?

Everyone has unfinished business, and we know from mind-body studies and quantum physics that old anger, grief, resentment and fear that is energetically entangled in body-mind projects into our lives and defines our present and future.

The good news is that each of us will have many opportunities to repair past, since errors in judgment or deed must be resolved or repeated until song is well sung, job correctly done.

It’s easy to resolve known patterns. If you feel robbed of time in days gone by, for example, you can give yourself gift of time now. A few hours a week spent doing what makes you happy will improve quality of your life and put an end to stressful inner complaints like, "There’s never enough time for me to do what I want to do!"

Inner messages are a cry for attention, so once you’ve heard message it will stop and so will stress produced by it. The Mad Hatter in you (from Alice in Wonderland), who always says, "I can’t stop. I don’t have time. I’m in a hurry" will sit down, relax and make friends with grinning Cheshire cat.

The words "I can’t" will drop out of your vocabulary and you will accomplish whatever you yearn to do. Go ahead: walk your yellow brick road to happiness! (That’s another story.)

If you feel guilt or shame over unwisely spent money or resources, just watch flow of energy through your life, use it wisely and consciously change your attitude about yourself.

The same goes for relationships: cherish people you love, be kind and know that you are now doing–and have always done–the best that you can. The idea is to listen to repetitive thoughts flowing through your mind and address each discordant message or feeling with antidotal actions. This mindfulness will transform destructive thought patterns into positive appreciation of yourself and your life.

Healing with light and sound

If you are experiencing grief or sorrow and know its source, you can release past by doing one or more of following:

1) Allow love to resolve pain. Find a quiet place where you won’t be interrupted and bring memory to mind. Breathe in and circulate love and light through your heart, mind, body and soul. See and feel this love and light, allowing it to cleanse and release pain and its entrenchment. Take your time. Breathe light until you feel a sense of completion.

2) At any time of night or day, whether at work or in meditation, simply ask in depths of your being for healing, state what wants to be healed, and trust that it will be done.

3) In some quiet situation, staying aware that this is a sacred act, envision your soul taking your heart in hand and saying to it: "I relieve and release your hurt, that you may be set free."

In these ceremonies we ask soul-self to apply energies of love to wound and return it to its rightful place as part of harmonic whole. If there is no inner resistance to healing, your pain and its pattern will resolve.

Break on through to other side

If you feel resistance and sense that problem is not healed, then you might want to conduct an inner dialogue. Just pick up pen and paper, retire to a quiet space and ask yourself, "What within me needs healing?" Wait patiently for your heart, mind or soul to speak to you in words, a symbolic image, a feeling or a sense of knowing.

If you get no answer or one that is not immediately helpful, ask your ego if it is resisting this process. If so, it will explain why. Ask what is positive purpose of its resistance, and if it evades question or gives you an answer that is not a positive purpose (like "Because I don’t think you know what you’re doing"), explain that you are asking for its cooperation right now. You want to know why it is blocking you, when you want to help all parts of your self work together for your highest good.

Eventually, when your ego sees sense in this, it will release its resistance and tell you why it is holding on to old thought patterns and/or negative feelings. You can simply assure it that this protection is no longer needed, now that you understand its positive purpose, and you can put in place a new behavior pattern so that your ego can let down its guard.

The ego really does have a positive purpose, and that is to defend and protect you. It’s perfectly happy to take a vacation if some other part does job while it’s away and it is especially deferential to heart. If your heart has something to say in this process, listen respectfully and address whatever concerns come up. The lower heart works with your mind, and higher heart works with your soul.

Manifesting life you want

Once you have healed and/or transformed an old pattern, it’s time to replace it with new thinking and behaviors. Decide what these will be before using seven manifestation principles below.

If you considered yourself a poor financier, you could use these seven principles to further heal that self-concept by manifesting money. If you have used light to heal anger or grief over a past relationship, you can use these principles to attract partner you want. But first, do some inner work to decide whether you are ready for a partner or friend. Then define exactly what you want so that you attract your dream and not your worst nightmare. Be careful, because this works!

Use same techniques of self-inquiry to determine your needs and desires. Simply pick up pen and paper, and ask your inner teacher, your soul-self, to give you insight into what is good and right for you. This way you will start out on right track and geometrically multiply your chances of getting what you ask for.

By using this "soul-searching" technique, you will be doing exactly what you've come here to do: know yourself as soul so that your soul can guide you into all that you can be.

With these seven principles of manifestation you are wielding your power of intention to bring a higher, more positive frequency of vibration into your being. You will animate more than self-healing, prosperity and your psychic gifts by tapping into infinitely powerful light of Love. In surrender to Light, you will become captain of your ship, master of your soul.

Once you have healed what you’re aware of (steps 1-3) and you and your soul define your next best steps, it’s time to walk in Light of your new life.

Love is in Air: Five Steps into Joyful Abundance

What is it that brings about healing and attracts love, joy, peace and prosperity into our lives? As a journalist, writer and author, I’ve studied science and spirituality for decades and perhaps like you have formed a seamless belief system that makes sense of everything.

So I’m excited when I see proof of it, which comes over and over again and most recently in an e-mail message from a new friend of mine in Pittsburgh. He wrote to say that when we hugged, he felt direct transfer of something from me into his chest. It didn't carry any emotional impact, but a physical shift in his energies transpired and next day rid him of a misconception that had caused him a great deal of anxiety.

Could I explain what had happened, he asked? Were these two events connected? What isn't, I laughed in delight, replying with lessons my inner voice of wisdom had just been teaching me!

Bearers of light

I spoke to David of liking him from moment we met, as I'd sensed something very special in him. He was coordinating Sunday service at his Unity church, and as he stood at podium, speaking so gently of love, my heart opened and I became aware of high spiritual energies in room. I was there to speak and my travel fatigue instantly melted away.

During "meet and greet" portion of service, I hugged David gratefully for love he had given me. So it was not I who healed him, but Love in him that did work. When we are open and ready for change, love responds and Light flows into and through us, bringing about transformation we seek.

My seven-year-old grandson understands this perfectly. He delights in creating "pictures" to give away, and alongside many of his colorful airplanes and butterflies are words, "Love is in air."

In this cosmic sea of spirit, composed of energetic waves of thought and feeling, love flows through every person and event. I bring to you some gift of wisdom, a loving thought or touch, and you say something that enlivens me, perhaps opens my heart to a new understanding of us both.

This is what Hindu mystic-poet Kabir meant in saying, "Sometimes we are a wave, sometimes ocean. We come here to bring each other to God." When we are calm and peaceful, we float restfully in ocean of OneMind, immersed in its expanded perspectives and at-one with its rhythmic flow. When we are disconnected, we break into separate waves, but even then we call each other back to One.

Waves in flow with ocean

What separates us from OneMind and its peace, joy and fulfillment? It is always stress, fatigue, fear and distrust, tensing us into waves of rigidity and resistance. Many of us fear being hurt and shrink away from life, closing our hearts to healing Love in and all around us. At times we feel cold and alone, perhaps rejected, abandoned, unsure and confused. But in truth, Love has not abandoned us. We have become oblivious to its presence.

This separation is why we so often feel lost and unhappy. The closed heart, by virtue of its separation, cannot be enriched by All That Is. The law of magnetic resonance, governing law of attraction, cannot bring riches to poverty, nor peace and happiness to a conflicted bodymind trapped in anger or judgment. When we are experiencing inner conflict and are out of integrity with our souls, we feel a gnawing hunger, a thirst for what is missing, and usually try to satisfy this craving with love relationships, euphoric chemicals, career achievement and/or material possessions. Our busyness almost distracts us from cold internal knot of separation, but not quite.

The only way back to ocean of OneMind is to open our hearts to light and unfold, petal by petal, into our blossoming.

Nature shows us what to do, especially in springtime. Out of dark, quiet winter comes a season of warmth and renewal. Brightly colored plants and flowers draw us to wondrous life force swirling into curve of a leaf, colorful patches of wildflowers and light mint greens of budding trees. Seeing magic of spring, we remember how Creative Force sweeps into every thing: in sheets of rain upon a rushing river; pealing laughter in a child's perfect cartwheel; sparkling spiral star-dance of our magnificent Milky Way.

Because of this visible and invisible evidence of love, I trust and believe what my inner wisdom tells me: that all waves come to empty our darkness so that Light can flow into bodymind, enabling us to gently unfold and flower into lives of beauty and joy. Our inner wisdom whispers that each and every wave helps us grow and is called, by our nature, into being.

When we listen to our souls very closely, we hear that this is our dearest wish and work that we came here to do. The open heart knows this and does it willingly, with excitement and gratitude, understanding its soul’s purpose and ultimate meaning of life.

The secrets of an open heart

All same, life is sometimes like a banana peel. It seems that everything conspires to trip us up, throw us off-balance and slide us down some slippery slope, whereupon we close our tender hearts for our own protection. How to open heart, then, when it closes suddenly or over time?

STEP 1. The most immediate antidote is to breathe and relax inside remembered assurance that every wave comes out OneMind and so must be a wave of love calling us back to Love. Knowing this, we breathe deeply and evenly, becoming perfectly present to flow of air into nose and back out of mouth.

Your can deepen this relaxed, peaceful state of consciousness by counting breaths or following wind of your breath into your diaphragm and back out of your body. Research has shown that focusing on breath relaxes us, and focusing on two things simultaneously, like counting and movement of breath, produces a deeper state of consciousness akin to meditation.

Another heart-opening technique, especially useful during conflict, is to close your eyes and focus on space between your ears. Try this now, to see for yourself how this diffuses thought and relaxes body. It works just as well when we focus on space between eyes or any two objects. Just as in a guided meditation, act of imagining space shifts our brainwaves into alpha bandwidth of vibration. This relaxed peacefulness neutralizes patterns of overexcited, hyper-aroused physical tension that create most if not all illness and disease, according to neurofeedback research.

STEP 2. When we repeatedly experience this meditative state of mind, we extend it into everyday life and are better able to stay united with OneMind. We are less upset by our own thoughts and by external events, so we live happier, healthier, more balanced lives.