10 Steps to Happily Ever After

Written by Slade Hartwell

Do you know what all happy and healthy marriages have in common? In every one of them you will find two people committed to making each other happy. You will find a man who cherishes his wife and puts her needs above his own, and you will find a wife who respects and trusts her man. We live in very selfish times. Pop-psychology messages are everywhere inrepparttar media encouraging us to love ourselves, do right by ourselves, and generally please ourselves first. If you really want a happy marriage, donít buy into that type of self-centered thinking. Instead, try these 10 time-tested techniques and experiencerepparttar 122062 happiness, peace, and tranquility of a healthy marriage.

1. Make time for each other. Itís so easy in our hyper-busy modern lifestyles to forget to set aside a little time to enjoy each otherís company. Start a weekly tradition of setting a date forrepparttar 122063 two of you to be together doing something you both enjoy. Keep it simple. Take a nice walk together. Sip coffee together in a cozy coffeehouse. Talk to each other, reminisce, and get to know each other again.

2. Take time off from each other. Give each other space and time to work on hobbies and personal interests. When you have an interesting project to work on, you will feel more fulfilled and you will be a more interesting person.

3. Make little romantic gestures. Remember to compliment your spouse. Leave a little love note for them to find once in awhile. Celebraterepparttar 122064 day you first met.Send flowers for no particular reason. You should continuously make little deposits in your spouseís emotional bank account. The return on your investment will be incredible.

4. Fight fair. Donít argue in front of other people. Donít insult each other or each otherís families. Never threaten divorce, and never go to bed angry. Letrepparttar 122065 little things go, and donít make a big deal out of every disagreement. Before arguing, think; is this really going to matter inrepparttar 122066 long run?

How to Put the Sizzle Back in Your Relationship with These Seven Goal Setting Tools

Written by Colin Dunbar

Goal Setting and Relationships?

That is not as weird as it may sound. Considerrepparttar following definition of a goal: "A goal is a future incidence or event that is consciously worked towards." With this in mind, it is perfectly normal to make it your goal to improve your relationship, and these seven goal setting tools can help you.

A great relationship is one ofrepparttar 122061 finest things life can offer. When you choose your partner and start on a full-time relationship, you look forward to a future of love, support, encouragement, communication and intimacy. We enter into relationships for many different reasons and with many different expectations. Often, due to circumstances outside your control, a relationship can become a little tarnished.

You recognize that all people are different and that evenrepparttar 122062 most compatible couple will have individual needs that differ at times. Using justrepparttar 122063 seven goal setting tools discussed in this article takes a give and take approach. Partners in a relationship who adopt this give and take attitude often feel a sense of pride in modifying a need "downward" when they know it will satisfy and stabilize their partner andrepparttar 122064 relationship itself. Mutual giving flourishes in an atmosphere of cooperation.

Seven Goal Setting Tools

Listening: Communication isrepparttar 122065 key to a lasting relationship and listening isrepparttar 122066 key to communicating. Being a good listener takes more than being attentive to your partner when he or she talks with you. Good listening is a characteristic of a healthy relationship. Give your mate full attention when he or she is talking. Listening without interruptingrepparttar 122067 other shows respect and also builds trust. Sometimesrepparttar 122068 greatest gift you can give someone is just to listen - with your heart. So listening helps to improve relationship in great way.

Small things: The small things are what constitute our existence. Oncerepparttar 122069 excitement your partner brings to your world becomes familiar, it'srepparttar 122070 small things that thrill you both and that will keep you connected and turned-on forrepparttar 122071 long run. Dorepparttar 122072 small things you did when you first fell in love with your mate. Rememberrepparttar 122073 small things you did to show your love to your mate? But as time went by, you probably began to get weighed down with simply living life and forgotrepparttar 122074 small things that maderepparttar 122075 difference inrepparttar 122076 beginning. Small things like a phone call inrepparttar 122077 middle ofrepparttar 122078 day just to talk or say, "I love you", a handwritten appreciative note, flowers, gifts, and opening doors. Re-charge your relationship by consciously going back and doingrepparttar 122079 small things that you did when your love first began to grow.

Give attention: When each person has decided to give of themselves torepparttar 122080 other, you form a reciprocating relationship of love, concern, and devotion. Consider your mate's interests more important than your own. Give attention to your mate's interests. All healthy relationships require consistent, ongoing, conscious attention to survive and thrive. It is a simple fact that whenever we give attention to something, we are choosing to create more of it.

Say 'thank you': One ofrepparttar 122081 most useful phrases in improving your relationship is to say "thank you". These two magic words will make others feel closer to you and create loyal relationships. This attitude of appreciation nourishesrepparttar 122082 heart of both participants and assures that each person's needs are attended to. Things like saying "thank you", re-charge your relationship. You know to say "thank you" when someone gives you a gift or does something special for you. However, if you're seriously interested in improving your relationship, you need to let your mate know how much you appreciate things that are not special,repparttar 122083 things that we just take for granted because people are supposed to do them anyway. Tell your partner what is right with them, what you appreciate, value and cherish. Thank them repeatedly and often. Appreciation makes your partner feel valued. It also builds trust and a feeling of acceptance. These powerful attributes act like a magnet to attract your partner to you.

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