10 Steps to Better Resolutions for 2002

Written by Trevor Barre

Another ‘Be a Better People Person’ free monthly E-zine brought to you by

Trevor Barre – Life and Relationship Coach.

Issue 12/2001

This month, I would like to share, with permission, a fellow coach’s suggestions for better New Year resolutions. It makes for great reading.

© Deborah Keahey, 2001

1. Make resolutions throughoutrepparttar year, rather than waiting for New Year’s.

That way you’re likely to set goals that are really meaningful and compelling, rather than setting goals forrepparttar 131421 sake of a holiday ritual.

2. Eliminate recurring resolutions.

Anything you’ve set as a goal before and failed at probably isn’t going to work any better this time. Drop it or redefine it to make it more doable and attractive.

3. Align resolutions with values.

When goals are in sync with your natural values, success comes more effortlessly.

4. Cross ‘shoulds’ off your list.

‘Shoulds’ and ‘musts’ are actually other people’s goals, not yours.

5. Make resolutions specific and measurable.

If there’s no clear finish line, you won’t be able to know if you’ve succeeded. Vague goals create anxiety and drain energy.

6. Identify what might stop you from succeeding.

Anticipating possible obstacles means they are less likely to derail you when you encounter them. Some will even disappear just by being named.

7. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want.

Sounds basic, right? You might be surprised. Energy follows thought, so you attract what you focus on. Phrase resolutions to expressrepparttar 131422 positive, notrepparttar 131423 negative, side of your goals.

8. Make your physical environment dorepparttar 131424 work.

If you want to watch less TV, put it in storage. If you want to curb credit card spending, keep them in a safe deposit box for emergency use only. If you want to eat healthier foods, make sure that’s all you have in your house. You getrepparttar 131425 idea.

Memoirs of a Wedding Singer

Written by Ellen M. DuBois

It's been several years since I leftrepparttar band I was with.

As I reflect upon my life --the Good,repparttar 131420 Bad, andrepparttar 131421 Ugly, (does that mean I'm getting old?), I look upon my experiences withrepparttar 131422 band with fondness and know that those memories will stay with me forever.

Music is in my blood. Every fiber of my being somehow has music attached to it. I think it's a DNA thing. Both parents are musicians and teachers, both grandmothers were entertainers, my Nana a piano player back inrepparttar 131423 days of silent films and my Grammy a Broadway dancer. Seems to me that I wasn't left with much of a choice inrepparttar 131424 matter!

When I was 30, (okay, now I'm dating myself), I joined what's referred to as a GB (General Business) band. Our primary function was weddings. That's how it started. Forrepparttar 131425 first year we did weddings that were booked prior to my joining. Lucky for us these folks didn't choose another band when they discovered thatrepparttar 131426 singer they thought would be there was in fact going to be me. The singer they'd booked fromrepparttar 131427 video tape had left and I was taking her place.

The weddings were fun. I loved singingrepparttar 131428 bride and groom's special songs and somehow added to their day. I liked beingrepparttar 131429 emcee. I enjoyed having to be upbeat and "on" even on those days when I felt "off". It was good therapy! Oh, and let's not forgetrepparttar 131430 singing part. Yes, that's my heart and to me one ofrepparttar 131431 best forms of self expression going.

As I think back, I suppose I likedrepparttar 131432 attention, too. I didn't want too much, but when someone came up to me on my break and said how wonderfulrepparttar 131433 music was, it felt good.

The band and I had excellent chemistry. Chemistry is there or it isn't -- you can't force it just as with any relationship. I think I laughed more on my gigs than at any other time. We'd joke on stage orrepparttar 131434 keyboard player would make "funny" sounds with his keys while I was inrepparttar 131435 middle of a song, TRYING to make me laugh and sometimes succeeding. Imagine singing "Crazy" while "burp" sounds are going off inrepparttar 131436 background! Boy, did I have to bite my tongue a lot! Sometimes, it didn't work and I actually lost it during a song. Oh, when that happenedrepparttar 131437 entire band was in stitches and all I could do was muster uprepparttar 131438 self control needed to keep going, hoping thatrepparttar 131439 folks dancing didn't notice. Sometimes, they did, and they laughed at us having such a good time! But, don't let that give yourepparttar 131440 wrong impression. We were definitely professional. A little laughter didn't take that away.

Whenever a wedding ended, I got a great feeling whenrepparttar 131441 bride and groom thanked us for doing a great job. What a feeling of satisfaction that was! Even with aching feet, a tired body and a worn voice, I was uplifted by their comments.

Now, you may be saying, "Hey, if this was so great, why did she leave?"

I say, "Good question."

Life is change -- change is life. We finished outrepparttar 131442 wedding bookings forrepparttar 131443 year and began doing club work more and more and got a few wedding bookings from that. Things were a bit unsteady when our guitar player left; sorepparttar 131444 leader ofrepparttar 131445 band held off on doing a promotional wedding video. Now, that's important if you want more wedding gigs. When prospective brides and grooms go into a function hall and want to see videos of bands, they want to see who is withrepparttar 131446 band NOW, not 2 years ago. Otherwise, they have to go torepparttar 131447 club whererepparttar 131448 band is playing to hear how they really sound. That can be a slight inconvenience, especially if they lived a distance from where we were playing.

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