10 Impressions on Online DatingWritten by Constancia Cruise
Are you a little uncomfortable with idea of Internet dating? Have you thought about how great it is for busy people; how convenient? Don't ever be duped by an online dating suitor. There are tales of deceit and heartbreak, don't be one of them.
1. It is easy to get involved in online dating relationships; for some it can lead to an addiction. Some find themselves enjoying flirtatious advances of opposite sex, both in chat rooms and with on-line dating services. People get sucked into on-line relationships and become addicted to world of on-line dating and chat rooms. For some it becomes an obsession. The classic story is a person who finds himself or herself divorced after 20+ years, followed by a string of unhappy relationships, then entering a Chat Room.
2. Because there is anonymity, there is deceit and lies in chat rooms. Deception lurks around every corner. You can create a persona, quite different from yourself. You can act out a part, instead of being a real person. There are characters online ready to predate on unwary and naive.
3. Online dating is every bit real. There is addiction, obsessiveness, vindictiveness, desperation, impulsiveness, and even downright guilt. Love is a powerful emotion. Do not follow your heart and not your head. Don't journey outside your comfort zone and be overtaken by a seductive search for true companionship.
4. Are you smart about online dating? Do you tell yourself, "I'll keep relationship at e-mail level before deciding to talk on phone!" Yes, take baby steps to discover if you have a great deal in common. You can enjoy Chat Rooms, but be aware where it can lead you if you are not savvy.
5. Are you kind of person that never thought about online dating? Did a friend convinced you to give online dating a try? You've read success stories of how people met on Internet: it was "a miracle" for them. Are you curious about online dating? Lots of books have been written on this subject. You must read a few if you are thinking of entering this medium.
How to Play to Your StrengthsWritten by Jo Ball
Are you clear on your unique qualities, talents and personal strengths? And what’s more do you centre your life around these gifts?
You’re busy, trying to be a good worker, colleague, partner, parent, friend and neighbour; you’ve been brought up with parents and peers ideals, educated well, maybe have a religious background, and perhaps a little of your past behaviour might been influenced by something you saw on TV or in a movie.
In fact, maybe… just maybe… and you’re not alone here… some of your thinking and behaviour belongs to what others have told you to think or feel in any given situation.
In fact, it is highly likely that other people might influence a large chunk of your life. Maybe you followed a career path based on your father telling you it made good career sense or because you’d earn a lot of money; maybe because everyone else drinks tea or coffee or beer you do same, even when taste doesn’t excite you; and maybe you buy certain brands of food because an advertisement makes it look good.
What am I saying here? I’m saying it is easy to be steered down one path, then another, then another, and then before you know it, “BANG” you’re in middle of a forest, cut off from your original path, and have no idea how to get back on right trail. On a journey we call this being lost. In life we end up calling it something else.
When we get lost on our path we say we got disillusioned. But if we get disillusioned surely that must mean we had an original illusion in first place, (because if we didn’t have an illusion, how could we become dis-illusioned).