10 Effective Ways to Communicate with a Right-Brained Person

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach


Right-brained folks process randomly and holistically, are intuitive, subjective, and look atrepparttar whole, not parts. They rely on nonverbal means of communication such as gestures and expressions, and generally read it well. They’re likely to pay more attention torepparttar 101518 tone of your voice andrepparttar 101519 gist ofrepparttar 101520 communication rather thanrepparttar 101521 meaning ofrepparttar 101522 actual words used.

P.S. Whether you’re left-brain dominant, or right-brain dominant, you can get into “whole brain thinking” when you develop your Emotional Intelligence. Then you have more options, more tools inrepparttar 101523 arsenal, so to speak.

Go here: http://www.ipn.at/ipn.asp?BHX to take a free online Brain Dominance Test.

1.TELL THEM WHAT TO DO, NOT HOW TO DO IT.

SAY: “Welcome aboard. Glad you’re my new Marketing Direction. I want so many new members this year we have to build an additional wing.” DO NOT SAY: “Welcome aboard. Glad you’re my new Marketing Director. I want a 25% increase in membership by November One and here’s how I want you to do it. A monthly newsletter, 2 more direct mails per month … “

2.DON’T BE OVERLY FASTIDIOUS ABOUT DETAILS, OR BELABOR POINTS, I.E., NO NEED TO DO THE I’S AND CROSS THE T’S..

SAY: “Set up a meeting forrepparttar 101524 4 of them – nice place, food, music … you knowrepparttar 101525 drill.” DON’T SAY: “Set up a meeting forrepparttar 101526 4 of them. I want a catered box lunch. Make it low carb, tuna or chicken, no bread …“

SAY: “Order a new printer for yourself but don’t spend too much.” DO NOT SAY: “Order a new printer for yourself. Get a ProMax, $200 atrepparttar 101527 most. 5 features. Oh, and get it from Office Max. In fact, get it from Harry. Here’s his number.”

3.USE COLORFUL LANGUAGE, METAPHORS, HUMOR.

SAY: “Okay, team, we’re pitching torepparttar 101528 MiniPro Co. on Friday. I want a killer presentation. No holds barred. Allrepparttar 101529 bells and whistles.” DO NOT SAY: “We’re presenting a proposal torepparttar 101530 MiniPro Co. on Friday. Bill, please pull allrepparttar 101531 figures from May of 2003. Mary, prepare a PowerPoint showingrepparttar 101532 trend overrepparttar 101533 last 6 months. Katerina, copyrepparttar 101534 exact format we used for …”

SAY: “How was it? Usual Dog and Pony Show.” DO NOT SAY: “How was it? The meeting was called to order promptly at 6 p.m. Harrison Borring presided…”

SAY: “Get that apartment filled up. I want that owner grinning from ear-to-ear. Stand naked on a street corner if you have to.” DO NOT SAY: “Get that apartment up to 80%. This is crucial torepparttar 101535 …”

4.PAY MORE ATTENTION TO HOW YOU SAY IT THAN WHAT YOU SAY, I.E., TONE, RHYTHM AND PITCH OF VOICE.

SAY: “Mary, [pause, soften tone] that last report was great, but… There’s just one thing I’d add [raise tone, become enthusiastic] – more exciting language, more drama. Get ‘em onrepparttar 101536 edge of their seats! That beginning was dynamite. When you start Part II, make it smooooother [use hand gestures, smooth tone]. Now go after it! (clap hands, pop!) You’rerepparttar 101537 greatest!” DO NOT SAY: “There are some points I need to make about your last report. Starting on page 2, second paragraph, line 10, your logic here was faulty …”

How to Communicate with a Left-brained Person

Written by Susan Dunn, MA, The EQ Coach


Left-brained? Think of Joe Friday on “Dragnet.” “The facts, m’am, justrepparttar facts.”

Left-brained people are linear and sequential, focus onrepparttar 101517 literal meanings of words, like logic and reason, and often score low on ‘reading’ nonverbal communication such as gestures and expressions.

P.S. We’re both a little of both, and to get into “whole brain thinking,” develop your Emotional Intelligence. Go here: http://www.ipn.at/ipn.asp?BHX to take a free online Brain Dominance Test.

1.Give A reason (one will do), and answerrepparttar 101518 direct question.

SAY: “No I haven’t completedrepparttar 101519 Pleading. I had to filerepparttar 101520 Motion to Compel first. It had priority.” DO NOT SAY: “I was too busy,” “I had too much to do,” or “I had to do something else.” (anticipate - “Did you or did you not, and if not, why not?”)

2.Quantify and avoid vague references to time and money. Do not use words like “something,” “stuff,” “a long time.” Avoid ‘superfluous’ adjectives’.

SAY: “It will take 4 days to get your shirt back fromrepparttar 101521 dry cleaners. If I take it in today, you won’t get it back in time for your trip on Friday.” DON’T SAY: “Don’t ask me to do stuff like that. It would take waaaaay too long.”

SAY: “This machine will cost you no more than $100 and no less than $50.” DO NOT SAY: “It’ll cost a lot,” or “We can’t afford that.”

3.Be serious. Avoid humor, sarcasm, double intendre or anything ambivalent or ambiguous.

SAY: “I will have that for you by 5:00 this afternoon.” DO NOT SAY: “You’re joking aren’t you? Tell me you’re joking.” (They aren’t.)

SAY: “I can’t do that by 1:00 and here’s why… You will have to ask someone else to do it.” DO NOT SAY: “In your dreams, or “Me and what 5 other people?” or “Sure” (sarcastically), or anything you counteract with gestures and expressions (rolling your eyes), as it will be missed.

4.Do not use metaphor.

SAY: “He talks that way because that’s how they teach you to talk inrepparttar 101522 military.” DO NOT SAY: “You can’t change a leopard’s spots.”

SAY: “I will do my best to convince him to come at that time.” DO NOT SAY: “I’d have to turn cartwheels.”

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