6. Cultivate your strengthsWhen you work to develop your inner strengths, you: · polish your diamond and stop singing
blues · will become more confident, optimistic and focused. The more developed your strengths,
more likely you are to aspire to higher goals and achieve a life of great satisfaction and joy.
My favorite analogy is one used by Edward Anderson and Donald O. Clifton. In their book, Soar With Your Strengths, they say: “Talents are like diamonds in
rough and strengths are diamonds that show brilliance after they have been carefully cut and polished. Just as finished diamonds start as diamonds in
rough, strengths start as talents. And just as rough diamonds are naturally found in
earth, talents are naturally found within you. But while diamonds are refined with blades and polishing wheels, strengths are produced when talents are refined with knowledge and skills.”
7. Let go of
past
The benefits of letting go of
past are enormous. Psychological research is finding that being a forgiving person is essential to happiness. Even when someone wrongs you, feeling anger or hatred only causes your life to descend into misery and resentment. You are
one who suffers, not
person with whom you're angry. Forgiving, on
other hand, can lift
burden. When Buddha and Jesus and other great spiritual figures taught us to forgive those who sin against us, they weren't just pronouncing holy philosophy, rather, they were giving practical down-to-earth life advice.
There is no question that you will be more satisfied with your life and will be less likely to experience symptoms of psychological distress, such as nervousness, restlessness and sadness if you let go of past traumas and disappointments. Researchers now believe that letting go of grudges may fortify
heart and
immune system. "When you're stuck in a grudge, you're isolated in your own suffering," says Fred Luskin, Ph.D., author of Forgive for Good and director of
Stanford Forgiveness Project. "The long-term damage to
cardiovascular system from bitterness and resentment is clearly established."
8. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
“If
only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.” ~ Meiser Echart
When you express gratitude and appreciation for everything in your life, you: